Have You Made Yourself Cry

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  • @brownium Feb 11

    I want to say from the start that I don't cry. Ever.

    But I wonder if anyone else has ever written a song that made them cry. Maybe you cried while you wrote it. Maybe you wrote it, forgot about it, stumbled upon it much later, and then it made you cry.

    There is some crazy meta-emotion that goes on when you find yourself moved by your own music. Or, I imagine it's like that. Nothing moves me.

  • @nailcarelawncare Feb 11

    i don't cry at music usually, but i came damn close not long ago - my main income these days is music performance for children, and one of my coworkers is damn good at writing solo instrumental lullabies on guitar, and one particularly fragile morning he just sorta got to me. i don't think the kids or parents noticed, or at least i told myself that.

  • @benjaminnolan Feb 11

    Oh yeesh, all the time. I have that really annoying thing where music has a physical effect on me, so sometimes it's just neck hairs on end, but other times I find it hard to breathe, or it makes me suddenly overcome with feelings. >.<

    I find I'm on the verge of welling up all the time, especially when listening to loud music, and I write a lot of loud music that hits the full frequency spectrum. >.<

  • @littlespiral Feb 11

    @brownium I just posted one a couple of days ago. I normally get very complex with my compositions, but this one is literally three chords and an extra layer in Ableton. But the song subject is about unrequited love and that's just a heartbreaking subject for me. I surprised myself by tearing up at the sound of my voice — in a good way. I normally am not a fan of how my recorded voice sounds. http://fawm.org/songs/80454/

  • @darcistrutt  Feb 11

    I do get emotional sometimes. I’ve already written one lyric that bothered me enough I don’t want to record it. The lyric begged to be written but it upsets me topically. If someone else grabs it OK but I can’t. I often journal-with-a-tune so feel the moment as real. The one this FAWM isn’t a journal one...just to be clear.

  • @aprilm  Feb 11

    I wrote a song in May 2016 - a break-up song to end a relationship. It took so many takes to record, it was actually crazy. I still cry when I listen to it even though six months after I wrote the song and broke up with the guy, we reconciled and have been together ever since...

  • @debs  Feb 11

    It's a good question, @brownium. I feel like if I cry while I'm writing something, that's how I know that it's one that I need to write. It doesn't happen very often but I'm working on one like that now, and I remember last year there was one song with @kristian that I sobbed all the way through writing, and that was my favourite one of the year.

  • @siebass  Feb 11

    I wrote a song last year about my brother's suicide. I still can't get through playing it without crying.

  • @devin  Feb 11

    Yes, usually the emotion is strongest when writing it, and less so when I go to play it.

    Happens maybe once a year or so. And it’s a consuming type of writing when it hits.

    Can be a happy or sad song.

  • @aprilm  Feb 11

    @siebass I am very sorry for your loss and I commend you for writing about it. I hope it was a healing experience for you.

  • @bradbrubaker  Feb 11

    Only once. It was a song written in tribute for a family member who passed very suddenly. Written for a previous FAWM.

    https://bradbrubaker.bandcamp.com/tra...

  • @iamthe666  Feb 11

    Yes. When I had my 16 year old calico cat put to sleep I decided to write a song for her. It took me a year to complete. Several times while writing/constructing it I would stop, and break down and cry. After writing the song, I decided to do a video (a Zorro walking through our house). By then, I didn't cry anymore -- just a smile on my face remembering her. Here's the video I did:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dGK2m...

  • @kahlo2013  Feb 11

    Oh G-d yes! Many such songs. But I cry at TV commercials that touch my heart and the site of new babies and symphonies when the strings swell and wrap around my heart. I write some lyrics that have some deeply personal backstories and they make me feel a bit but then when a collaborator puts is to music and I hear it for the first time I start sobbing...
    One of my first FAWM collabs was a lullaby I wrote for the 6 yo daughter of a dear friend, a single mom, who died. When I heard @the3queens demo I cried and cried - it still makes me tear up six years later...

  • @unclephilly Feb 11

    This has never happened to me before, but this is my first FAWM as a parent and writing a couple of songs about my daughter has left me kinda choked up at times. A good indication that I'm being honest in my lyric writing.

  • @brrrse  Feb 11

    I used to cry after every song - a post partum kind of thing. FAWM has helped me past that, especially the skirmishes. I do cry after, during and sometimes before some of my songs - but I also cry at movies, commercials, leaves, clouds - I cry like a dog barks, to be honest, and for probably the same reasons 😀

    But no, there's a certain cry when I know a song is good and I'm blown away at myself. it's celebratory. 😀

  • @max  Feb 11

    Not when listening but sometimes when performing particular songs live. The moment when you're on stage and you are thrown back emotionally to the situation / period you wrote the song about. Sometimes it's goosebumps, sometimes you feel tears in your eyes.

  • @mkd  Feb 11

    There’s a line in my Hurt Song where I sing to my sons: “one day you’ll feel to grown; you’ll deal with problems all alone”

    That slightly chokes me up.

  • @donna  Feb 11

    Oh, yes. I've cried while writing lyrics (and then especially later once they've been gifted with music by my wonderful collaborators).

    The first was about a British soldier who died aged 15 in WWI. (The lyrical story was from his point of view. The somewhat longish prog-rock song 'Old Enough to Kill a Man' was the result.

    The second - partly autobiographical - was about the friendship between three primary school kids, one of whom died very young. 'The Dreeman Tree'

    One was written following the death of an old and dear high-school friend of mine. 'A Cluster of Stars'

    Another was after I'd had a dream about someone close to me when I was young; I then wrote 'All of the Trees'.

    Yet another was written after I'd read the story of the body of a newly born infant being found in a bin full of broken glass in Den Haag. 'Safe from Glass' was the result (and set to lovely music by Pekko Kolahmeinen,whose FAWM name I forget).

    And another, a lullaby, was written with the - largely lost - Australian Aboriginal culture in mind.

  • @ianuarius  Feb 11

    Almost. But that's because I was in a specific kinda mood and the lyrics somehow matched what I was feeling.

    That makes me think tho. Should I try to make more songs like that?

    I'm not a big lyrics person. Even with my own songs... I know they have lyrics, but I tend to just follow how the voice sounds and how well the melody harmonizes with the rest of the music.

  • @chrishope  Feb 11

    quite often .... . my second this year is a very raw true story. Lots of stuff hidden in my lyrics are a bit too personal and teary. i feel i need to grow to more universal lyrics .. feels selfish ? sometimes. too 'poor me!'
    @brownium love 'crazy meta-emotion' ....however

  • @tsunamidaily Feb 11

    a few times. a couple of songs about suicides of friends, one about a story my friend told me about her daughter while she was dying, and one about an article i read where the woman's husband had paid to have roses delivered on valentine's day every year, so they arrived after he had already died. only once have i cried over a story i made up, about a kid's brother going off to war and getting a letter from him after he had already been killed in the war. there are likely a few other that got to me momentarily, but those are the five times in over a thousand songs that i can remember crying from a song i have written.
    here's two of them:


    .strawberries in the dead of winter:

    https://soundcloud.com/tsunamidaily/s...

    roses every year:

    https://soundcloud.com/tsunamidaily/r...

  • @wobbiewobbit  Feb 11

    this year i both laughed out loud and cried while writing My Dad Was Cars http://fawm.org/songs/78273/
    fawm 2016 i wrote a song that started as a recurring dream weeks before as the chorus tune and concept and hook, it was making me cry at that stage and as i wrote it over quite a long time in fawm, i cried all the time, it just hit a spot. (other friends have cried at that one too. it is supposed to be a tear-jerker 😉 ) http://wobbiewobbit.com/a-z/lets-go-r...
    also totally with the goosebumpers. i get massive goosebumps all over when something hits a spot for me, actually it is a pain in the arse, i get it for the whole of february especially - when i get something that clicks and takes it a good direction, or i think of something emotional to me, or if i get a nice comment... i basically spend february like a plucked chicken! ( i have them now for daring to say all this!)
    Oh. yeah and last night i cried about my skirmish but that was just in a sulky stroppy "told you i'd

  • @wobbiewobbit  Feb 11

    be crap if i rushed TOO much!" way and hating posting (and leaving up there still) the experiment like some form of self-humiliation! ah well.

  • @onewholovesrock Feb 11

    Yes I have. Writing songs about past friends and loved ones, past relationships, etc.

  • @sunnymae  Feb 11

    Yes...many times. If it's an intellectual exercise and comes out super great I'll just run around the house screaming..."you're a mother fucker!" When I feel as a channel for the writing muses from up above, and listen back in amazement, I have wept out of joy, wonderment and grace.

  • @stuartbenbow  Feb 12

    I have several songs like that. It’s usually either something I’m particularly passionate about that really resonates, or something very vivid on an emotional subject.

  • @guatecoop  Feb 12

    Great topic! I have to say that I am always looking to write music that moves ME. I am the listener who I care most about. Tears are not something that I experience much, but I always listen to my own music to make sure that it moves me somehow. If a song doesn't "get" me emotionally in some way, then I will probably scrap it.

  • @oddbod  Feb 12

    It’s happened a couple or so times, when I’ve been writing songs about my other half.
    The most recent time was my first song at this Fawm.
    I’m usually not that emotional though and certainly don’t cry often

  • @ampersandman  Feb 12

    I was welling up a little writing about my deceased uncle and grandpa three years ago: https://soundcloud.com/ampersandman/v...
    Mostly I'm too analytical writing and recording music. However sad the song might be, I'm actually having fun and enjoying it, that's why I make music.

  • @visiblydistorted Feb 12

    Actually it's kind of the opposite for me... I end up writing so that I can get over it and stop crying. Writing it all down as a way of resolving it, dealing with it, and filing it away.

  • @adforperu  Feb 12

    Nah, not cried at my own music. I don't tend the cry at any music really, though have got teary-eyed at gigs many a time. As much as I love listening to music, there's nothing like seeing it live and being immersed. Jesus, I got teary-eyed during Kendrick Lamar's 'King Kunta' at the weekend 😏

  • @izaakalexander Feb 12

    Singing will occasionally trigger a cry from me. When the song is new and cuts close to the heart, or occasionally during a random throwback or relapse to the heightened emotion. I can write these songs without crying, and play the instruments--- it's singing that will do it. If I can get through the song anyway, the performance is better for it.

  • @vomvorton  Feb 12

    My cat passed away last January and I wrote a song about his absence last FAWM, so yeah - took me a few goes to get through that one.

  • @adforperu  Feb 12

    @vomvorton, don't, you'll set me off...

  • @vomvorton  Feb 12

    New thread: Have you made @adforperu cry?

  • @adforperu  Feb 12

    Ha, @judypie could start that one. Or @degausser when he doesn't pass the fucking ball.

  • @judypie  Feb 12

    My songs make me cry all the time! But really just the emotions they stir up rather than the power of my music, ha! Yes, I like to make Adforperu cry too.. it takes ALOT.

  • @adforperu  Feb 12

    You pressed send too early, you meant to finish with "..of weaponry"

  • @corinnelucy  Feb 12

    ALL THE TIME. I know I've worked through something when I cry while I'm writing a song. It usually only makes me cry the first time or two that I play it though. I get used to it. I think it's helpful - therapeutic.

  • @davidbreslin101  Feb 13

    This has happened to me a few times, but not with songs that are particularly personal. The opposite, in fact. I'm not gifted with great natural empathy, but I try. Hard. Quite often in my songs I try to think myself into someone else's point of view. When it works, the emotional backwash can be quite intense. So I'll choke up when singing about the sorrows of a historical or completely fictional person.

  • @bethdesombre  Feb 13

    I'm with @wobbiewobbit : I can tell what the bits in my own songs that are the most effective/poignant are because I literally get goosebumps when playing them. That's my form of crying at a song.

  • @andygetch  Feb 13

    Yes

  • @tuneslayer2018  Feb 13

    Actually, just now.

    http://fawm.org/songs/82441/

  • @quork  Feb 13

    Only once. In FAWM 2017 I wrote a song from the perspective of a guy whose family has been forced to flee their home due to violence. They're walking to the border, trying to avoid further violence. What got me was the strength and hope of the protagonist to get through this terrible situation, which could happen to any of us. I got choked up playing it.

  • @mikeskliar  Feb 13

    when I wrote the song "Ruth" in tribute to my grandmother, and all those jazz chords kind of came out at once, i think it was the most emotional i've gotten (for anyone curious, a new version of that song is in my latest bandcamp album 'whatever magic'- see my home page for link)..
    and my latest song here is more 'emotional' then most, probably had me a little 'ferklempt' as they say... http://fawm.org/songs/82437/

  • @konemake  Feb 13

    Yes, many times. Sometimes I make songs about things that are so awful and/or personal.

    Sometimes my songs make laugh too and sometimes they make me really angry. When I was younger I tried mostly make songs that made me angry and I was hoping they would make other people angry too.

    But back to crying: I think its a good to face bad things in life and if a song can help facing those things, then it's a really good song.

  • @unkept Feb 13

    Last 50/90. My wife and I were living in Germany, we received news that her mom was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer. I wrote a song about it, cried while trying to record it. Had to take a second recording so it wasn't audible.

    That was my last song for 50/90, as we uprooted, quit our jobs, and moved back to the US.

    The good news is that my mother in law is now (after surgery and chemo) in remission. Hopefully this is the last of it for her.

  • @writeandwrong  Feb 14

    I have never cried while writing a song until FAWM 2018...wasn't even what I planned on writing for the skirmish when I had started it, so went in a direction I so wasn't expecting... so between crying and skirmishing at the same time, it's not as clear perhaps as it could be, but it was about my daughter and how hard it was when she had selective mutism for a year...I literally cried every night that year. I rarely cry, too...so to cry while writing a lyric was very unexpected...but the write brought all those emotions back.
    http://fawm.org/songs/78328/

  • @acromie  Feb 14

    I haven't cried over one of my songs yet, but I just posted my first song for Fawm, which happens to be a memorial. It may yet make me break down as I continue to work on it, but really only because I'm still grieving.

  • @bmoscovitz Feb 20

    Last year I wrote a tribute to my grandmother on the 10th anniversary of her death. Writing it I had to stop every now and then to breathe and dry some tears. Listening to it still gets me choked up!

  • @asladders Feb 22

    I cry all the time while writing songs, it's like an indication that it's going the right direction. I think it's specifically an inspirational thing when finding lyrics, but I've found it happens to me often.

  • @terriellen  Mar 1

    yes. especially ones that come from my heart or a personal experience. The one I wrote for my wife for Valentines day for this year's challenge was especially hard to record as I kept falling apart.

  • @keithcuts Mar 1

    Oh yeah I have. For the first time while songwriting. It affected the fawmers too based on the comments. Don’t listen if you need dry eyes at the moment http://fawm.org/songs/85932/

  • @feeslip58  Mar 1

    https://soundcloud.com/ralph-goodson/...

    This one every time.

  • @wacha  Mar 1

    I had not before but did tear up when I was wiring this on e- http://fawm.org/songs/87209/

    I also got choked up when I was working in this one - http://fawm.org/songs/79328/

  • @theresaj  Mar 1

    It was my first fawm and I was brand new at songwriting. But I knew if I was going to write songs then I wanted to write one related to a heart condition I found out I had. The words literally came out almost faster than I could write. The melody just happened. That first time I sang it through before pressing record...I broke down completely. Unfortunately I cannot find a recording anywhere but I’ll redo it at some point, hopefully soon.

  • @skittycat  Mar 1

    Yup. My first FAWM I wrote one that choked me up so much I could barely do the demo for it.
    When I was writing it down it seemed ok. I knew the content was close to home but I thought "yeah, it'll be fine, it's just a song". Nah, it brought back such a huge sense of loss the words stuck in my throat.
    And now, it makes me hesitate to write songs like that. Cos how could I ever perform it if I can't get the words out and just end up blubbing?

  • @sherrycanary  Mar 1

    This FAWM I teared up when @oddbod brought my song She Sang Oh Happy Day to life. Tha song Oh Happy Day released me all those years ago, and now getting it out of my subconscious and into the light of day released me again

  • @sarahmonticue Mar 1

    I'm so glad you asked this question! I literally almost always cry when I'm writing a song. For me, that's how I know it's good, and that it's saying what I want it to say. It can definitely be a struggle when I'm trying to sing it though. I want to get the words out. But I've found that I need to think of myself the way that I think about someone else. If someone else is singing their song and they start crying, I don't get annoyed, I just start crying too. But If I'm singing my song, and I start crying, I get annoyed, and think everyone else will be too. But I think there's often this sense of shared humanity that we feel when others put themselves out there like that. We like to be let in. So I feel like I try to coach myself not to get annoyed at myself, but to know I'm doing something special by being authentic and letting others in.

    It was tempting to not upload this video, because I started crying, but I did it anyway. I want to practice what I preach and believe that there's

  • @tuneslayer2018  Mar 1

    Tom Smith once said that he held off performing "A Boy And His Frog" (a tribute to Jim Henson sung from Kermit's point of view) until he could sing it through twice in a row without crying. I'm not sure I would have been able to; every time I hear the song it brings tears to my eyes.

  • @rainchaser  Mar 1

    No, but that would be a dream to me if that ever happened.

  • @oblivionratula  Mar 1

    I've cried singing/playing guitar in the past - not often. Being struck with the idea to repeat my last verse of my penultimate song this FAWM /last night choked me up a bit (it's about foster care).

  • @oblivionratula  Mar 1

    Also, I almost cried when I went to Starbucks to write my last two lyrics yesterday only to be reminded they play their own damn music and realize I had no earbud/plugs. 😁 I slogged through, though.

  • @frenchcricket Mar 1

    Not until I wrote this one

    http://fawm.org/songs/86976/

    then I got overwhelmed all of a sudden

  • @defaultdave  Mar 1

    Couple of my songs made me cry while writing and singing this year.
    But nothing like my last song.
    http://fawm.org/songs/87677/

  • @sheamiejay  Mar 2

    The first song I wrote for FAWM this year, was the first one I completed in some time. My dad passed away in July and the song had to be written to continue the grieving process. It was cathartic, healing and allowed me to open up and get back into writing. I cried while writing, recording and listening.
    http://fawm.org/songs/77582/

  • @renegadepriest Mar 2

    I cried this FAWM during my recording of “Our Crazy Ride” toward the end of the song. And I always cry when I play it back, so I don’t listen to it that often.

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